On the first day, we created a delicious menu of, Wandering Possibilities, for our time together. The desires on this list included activities we wanted to share or prototype and things we might be curious about experiencing for the first time. Throughout each day, we flowed between solo, partner, and group play, allowing for spaciousness and downtime as needed. There was a sense of intentionality in how we approached each other, creating a shared rhythm that felt expressive and expansive.

Being my birthday, I practiced centring myself, voicing my longings—something I often help others with but rarely do for myself. As someone who thrives on being of service, it can be challenging to switch into receivership, but I leaned in with trust and openness. This co-created space, allowed me to explore my longings, deepening my sense of belonging while filling my vessel for the year ahead.

Finding a balance between facilitating and play was key. I felt deeply nourished by how enthusiastically everyone met my requests. In this context, I love to be surprised, so at one point, I was blindfolded, danced with, and made into a sweet, sensual delight.

In retreat, we explored the connection between the pelvis and jaw, whispered to nipples, and explored queer erotic ritual. I felt a settling in my being, an ease in my leadership, and a growing strength in my ability to serve. Our collaboration took the weight off my shoulders, redistributed among our enthusiastic team, and I felt more rooted than ever. For me, it was an embodied success!

Weeks later, as part of our integration, I asked the group: “How were your intentions met? What was most expansive for you?” Here is what’s been shared:

“It was joyful for me to experience myself in a group erotic setting 5 years into exploring SSE/SSE-related spaces. Noticing my capacities, as well as my growth edges. I found it really wonderful to gather with such awesome folks who are both in their on processes, as well as fellow practitioners: talking about our professional practices; talking about what we get up to in our own lives. What a yum!”

~Noah

“The Queeros gathering was an answered prayer – for intergenerational queer space where whole bodies and souls are invited, encouraged and welcomed – without expectations or requirements. I felt at home with resonant humans, while at the same time humbled with my awe and admiration for you – as I witnessed the courage and capacity of young ones who are exceeding me. I saw how you each tended to your own centre, while caring for one another and the group space. Joy, awe, trust, sacred intimacy….. together with great food and fun! Amen. Thank you Raynefyre for gathering us and sharing the magic with me.”

~Caffyn

“It was particularly wonderful for me to co-create this space with other creative erotic adventurers who are all doing gender queerly. The rippling ranges of touches and interactions possible from this starting point were very rich and nourishing for me! Our core erotic theme forest day was a highlight for me – having creative, playful space with my own body, trees and ferns with others exploring their erotic archetypes around me and then coming together afterwards to share our discoveries and creations. Through moments of vulnerable sharing by others, I felt a piece of my story about the specialness of my specific erotic insecurities or feelings of inadequacy fall away, instead feeling sure of my own sense of belonging in a whole joyful, messy, wounded, curious, complex web of beings. Sharing and witnessing in the swirl of ecstatic-neutral-painful-cathartic-hot embodiments reminded me how sexuality really has the potential to be and hold it all.”

~Kota