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I am a queer-hearted transformation artist, digital designer, ecstatic breath and body work practitioner. I like to spend my time playfully queering the intersections between embodied sexual pleasure, gender expression and heart centred spirituality.

A student of Somatic Sex Education, my current passion is exploring PLEASURE and ecstatic CONNECTION through TOUCH. Let’s share tools for cultivating selfLOVE, compassion, authentic emotional expression and QUEER erotic embodiment.

Book a discovery call and learn more about my client driven, erotic whole-body awakening MASSAGE, guided MOVEMENT and ecstatic BREATH exploration.

Their Experience

I am a graduate of the Urban Tantra Professional Practice Training Program and a lifelong seeker and practitioner of queer-based-spirituality.  A curious cultivator of surrender based, vitality promoting, pleasure focused practices, giving space to sensations, and relief of tensions, blockages or numbing disconnect. My most valuable learning is to be present with what is and meet it with GRACE.

Over the past 5 years, I have co-facilitated ecstatic breath journeys for groups of up to 50 through Zoom and in real life at Stockholm PRIDE and Scandinavia’s regional BURN events. My Swedish dream-team and I founded a queer-centred camp at the Borderland. It’s basis is on providing a safer ritual space for connection to radical self love and expression, tantra inspired workshops and kinky play. Our venue welcomed other burners to host their own intimacy workshops and events in our bookable space throughout the week.

Presently, I am enrolled as a student with the Institute of Somatic Sex Education. Here I find belonging within an ethical body of qualified community sexperts, queerdos and an abundance of resources.

With a focus on playfully cultivating pleasure through queer embodiment, I am devoted to be of service to the desires of women, trans, and genderful expressions beyond the binary.

I am co-founder of a queer event collective of transformational heartists, who gather 2-3 times a month for workshops, ceremonies, and community events. The Expansion Mansion hosts a variety of interests including, tantra, sensual bodywork, consent, compersion, lifestyle, therapeutic kink, alternative medicine…

What would you like to host in our space?

their STORY

During the Summer Solstice of 2017, near Nyköping in Sweden, I completed the Urban Tantra® Professional Training Program with Barbara Carrellas. After reading her book, Urban Tantra: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century, I realized it was going to be a valuable tool in my kit for personal and professional journeying into gender identity, sexuality, and kink.

After tapping into Urban Tantra and the trainings and community surrounding it, I discovered a world of erotic adventurers who shamelessly shared their own personal discoveries around sexual pleasure and empowerment. I fell deeply in love with the other participants and was initiated into the queer spirit animal that I am today.

This training supported my personal development and helped me recognize the gifts and services that I now share with others. I was particularity drawn to the power of intentional breath techniques and how we can tap into our own pleasure field while fully clothed and without touch. Having a decade of experience with practicing meditation and yoga, I was already familiar with the power of the breath. It is my most basic tool that’s helped me move through the pain and grief of separation. Intentional breath brings me closer to discomforts in the mind and body. Without this mindfulness, I tend to dissociate and subconsciously disconnect.

My breath practices have helped me cultivate compassion for both myself and others. Chronic arthritic pain in my lower back and hips was something I was managing since I was a teen… Breath has become my medicine. When I connect my breath to movement, I can target and send space and love to uncomfortable sensations in my body. I’ve also used intentional breath to endure and transcend extreme sensation during body modification, piercing rituals, and tattoo.

Hours of needles penetrating the skin can become relaxing if I am able to focus on the flow of my breath. When I discovered that the breath can also be a way for us to experience pleasure, I instantly knew that this was what my world needed more of. Adding deep, full breaths to self-pleasure and masturbation can provide an expansive quality to orgasm. Focusing on our breath assists us to be in the moment, present for our journey instead of focused on the final destination.

The magic is in dropping expectations and delegating the breath to do its job. Throughout my life, and to this day, I encounter people (mostly AFAB, whom have never experienced orgasm or even self-pleasure). I work with gender variant and trans folk who experience body dysphoria (the struggle to connect with one’s current form), or they have new parts that are in need of exploration.

Many of us were shamed as kids and taught that self pleasure or masturbation is dirty or ‘sinful’. These limiting beliefs can be carried through ancestral lineages, and into adulthood, often creating issues involving self-image, personal power, access to creativity, and pleasure. This uncecessary suffering is what motivates me to support others. I aim lead the cultivation of compassionate, loving environments where souls can navigate the regions of the body, explore their shadows, play with sensations, and use the breath to bring life force to areas of neglect.

Working with sacred agreements, understanding hidden boundaries, discovering limitations and desires… I open myself to guiding and cultivating pure queer bliss. Together, we creatively negotiate before allowing my hands and tools to work their magic.

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they VALUE

I value the freedom to practice radical self expression. This goes for myself and others. I value and support autonomy and agency. I believe that we can cultivate wellness from within. We all have inner pharmacies that guide our personal healing journeys.

Curiously tapping into our desires through play is transformative. I value having access to spaces that welcome respect, fresh perspectives, and supporting unconditional love. Sacred ritual spaces held together by shared intentions, respected boundaires and clear agreements.

I believe we are all responsible for our own experiences. I take ownership for my domain. This includes thoughts, emotions, actions, needs, desires and care.

You are so welcome, means that your glorious and not so glorious parts of you. How are you showing up today?