Breathing with the Coast: Ecstatic Breathwork & Queer Connection in BC

This March, after an unforgettable journey to Brazil for the Touch & Play Retreat, I returned north to the misty coastlines and tender communities of British Columbia. I landed with a full heart and a suitcase packed with toys, embodiment tools, and new stories to share. This next leg of the journey was a softer unfolding—less tropical heat, more ocean air—and it offered just as many gifts.

Vancouver: Holding Space, Sparking Eros

In Vancouver, I had the chance to reconnect with some long-time clients, offer one-on-one care sessions, and drop into the kinds of deep presence that feel like returning home. There’s something about this place—between the mountains and the sea—that feels like an old friend. It holds grief and joy in the same breath.

One of the highlights was co-creating a play party with a group of trans and gender non-conforming erotic friends and lovers. My breathwork offering was how we began—an invitation to land in our bodies, release tension, and connect to the pulse of pleasure that lives underneath it all.

For many, it was their first time experiencing this kind of breath journey. And wow, did they show up. The room transformed from uncertain nuance to a symphony of sensation: sighs, laughter, movement, connection and cathartic release. These kinds of spaces are electric, not just because they’re charged with erotic energy, but because they’re alive with truth. With people being themselves, all the way.

Image | Zukaro Media

Victoria: Gentle Grounding & Emergent Eros

Crossing the Salish Sea to Victoria, I arrived to a different rhythm. It’s quieter there. Slower. The moss on the trees speaks in whispers. Victoria is also the home of the institute where I trained as a Somatic Sex Educator, and in many ways, it’s a portal—a meeting ground for practitioners, clients, and community.

Breathing with ancestors

In this part of the journey, I offered care sessions to erotic bodywork clients and reconnected with a few of my Somatic Sex Educator colleagues. I also held another group ecstatic breath session that welcomed a range of bodies, experiences, and expressions.

I’m always amazed by how breath becomes the great equalizer. No matter the town, no matter the group—when we breathe together, something ancient wakes up. We remember we belong. We soften. We open.

Each breathwork session is an emergent co-creation. I offer a structure—a seven-chakra journey that includes continuous breath, breath holds, pelvic floor engagement, self-touch, and a whole lot of permission. But what unfolds is always unique. Each body brings its own wisdom. Each group, its own constellation of desires and longings.

In Victoria, that wisdom was gentle, steady, and deeply erotic. We held space for grief. For joy. For shadow. For aliveness in all its forms.

On Tour, In Service

These two weeks on the west coast reminded me of why I do this work. It’s not just about breath or body. It’s about weaving threads—between people, between communities, between parts of ourselves that have been longing to come home.

My work travels with me. It grows as I grow. And I’m so grateful to be able to meet people where they are—in city lofts, in studio basements, in queer play parties and soft carpeted living rooms. This breathwork is adaptable, invitational, and deeply rooted in consent. Whether you’re new to embodiment practices or ten years deep into your own healing path, there’s space here for you.

Beacon Hill Ducks Blossoms Noah Raynefyre

Peacocks, mallards, Noah and Raynefyre with the cherry blossoms at Beacon Hill Park.

Looking Ahead

I’ll continue to offer sessions and workshops in Vancouver and Victoria as I’m invited. I plan to return to Victoria in late summer to circle back to community, family, and friends. If you’re seeing this and want to co-create something together—a group session, a private offering, or a community ritual—let’s connect. This work is meant to be shared widely.

With deep breath and grounded joy,