My name is Raynefyre Grayce and folx who know me use they/them pronouns for me.
I am a visionary, artist, and embodiment guide, and for nearly twenty years I have been walking a path of spiritual embodiment that has taken me through many landscapes, both inner and outer. This has been less a journey toward finding answers than a lifelong practice of becoming more curious about the questions:
What does it mean to be fully alive?
What does it mean to inhabit a body with presence, pleasure, honesty, and wonder?
How might we live in deeper relationship with ourselves, one another, and the living world?
Ecstatic Breathwork Demo – Touch & Play Brazil | Image by Ismael Dos Anjos
A 5th generation visitor here on Turtle Island, I was born and grew up in Calgary, on the traditional territory of the Niitsitapi (Blackfoot Confederacy), including the Siksika, Kainai, and Piikani Nations, as well as the Tsuut’ina Nation and the ÃŽyâxe Nakoda Nations. Growing up there shaped me in ways I am still discovering. The vast skies, the changing seasons, the foothills and the particular intensity of the Chinook winds are woven into my earliest sense of home. Looking back now, I can also see how much of my life has been a journey away from the definitions of home I inherited and toward a more expansive understanding of what home actually means.
I come from a lineage of Celtic, Italian, Jewish, and Spanish ancestry, and I carry an ongoing curiosity about what has travelled through those lineages to reach me. I think often about inheritance: the stories we are given, the things that remain in secrecy, the ways our families learn to survive, the traditions they preserve, and the patterns they pass along without realizing it. My own becoming has involved learning to honour where I come from while also questioning what I want to carry forward.
Over the years, I have lived, loved, worked, created, danced, and wove with communities in different places, including Vancouver and Victoria. In Vancouver, I lived and and still practice and play on the unceded traditional territories of the xʷməθkʷəy̓əm (Musqueam), Sḵwx̱wú7mesh Úxwumixw (Squamish), and səlilwətaɬ (Tsleil-Waututh) Nations.
Today, I am based in Victoria, on the traditional territory of the Lekwungen peoples, including the Songhees and Esquimalt Nations. Naming these places matters to me because my relationship with land is becoming increasingly central to my understanding of community, responsibility, and belonging. I want to acknowledge that I live and create on stolen lands with histories, cultures, languages, and relationships that long predate my own presence here.
My spiritual path began to take shape almost two decades ago. What started with meditation and yoga gradually opened into neo-Tantric and Taoist philosophy. Shaped through breathwork, ecstatic dance, ritual play, conscious sexuality, embodiment, and psychedelic exploration and co-creation in Burner culture. Each practice offered another doorway into the same underlying question: what happens when we stop treating the body as something separate from spirit?
The body eventually became one of my greatest teachers.
Erotic Museum in Barcelona | Image by Ro Rose
Since my mission awakening at the Urban Tantra Professional Training in 2017, I’ve become a guardian of queerly curated erotic temple spaces. From the forests of the Borderland to the high deserts of Outland, and the rhythms of Solstice and lunar rituals to the celebrations of PRIDE, I’m known for infusing counter-normative communities with the life force of love and queer affirmation.
I firmly believe that relational wounds are best healed together and am steadfastly committed to co-creating safe-enough, queer centred erotic spaces where individuals can be witnessed wholeheartedly, held spaciously and consensually. My unwavering faith in the transformative power of presence, loving kindness, laughter, joy, and play infuses my work with a grounded sense of connection to Mother Earth, the infinite skies, the sun, the moon and the wisdom of cycles that bring us together.
Travis Silverman Photo | The Handsome Project 2025
Expansion Mansion Vancouver, BC
The Dance of Becoming is my dream of creating a regenerative retreat and wellness centre where people can gather to learn, heal, play, dance, create, eat together, explore embodiment, connect with nature, and experience the possibility of community built around something other than consumption and isolation. It is a vision that brings together many of the threads that have run through my life: spirituality, embodiment, sexuality, art, ecology, hospitality, queer culture, creativity, and collective transformation.
I imagine a place where these things do not have to be separated into different rooms or different parts of ourselves. A place where a sauna can be as much a space for connection as it is for wellness, where food can become community, where art can become ritual, where movement can become medicine, and where learning can happen through both conversation and experience.
My exploration of embodiment led me into professional training in Urban Tantra, followed by certifications in Sexological Bodywork and Somatic Sex Education. Through this work, I began exploring the places where sexuality, spirituality, nervous system, pleasure, identity, relationship, and personal transformation intersect. I became particularly interested in the experiences of queer, trans, gender-expansive, and gender-creative people, whose relationships with their bodies and identities often exist outside the cultural scripts we are handed.
My practice is about creating the conditions for people to listen more deeply to themselves. I believe the body carries an extraordinary intelligence, although many of us have learned to override it in order to be acceptable, productive, safe, desirable, or successful. Coming back into relationship with the body can therefore be a profound act of reclamation and empowerment.
Alongside this work, I have always been an artist. Creativity is not a separate part of my life that I turn to when everything else is done. It is one of the ways I understand the world. I create sacred geometry mandalas, working with pattern, precision, symmetry, repetition, colour, line, and form. There is something deeply meditative about building complexity from simple relationships, and I often find that the process of making art reveals something about life that I could not have understood through thought alone.
The same impulse toward creation has led me into building things that are larger than myself. I have spent much of my professional life working in design and digital spaces, while simultaneously feeling a growing desire to create something more tangible and rooted in place. Over time, that desire has become the vision for the Dance of Becoming.
Big Tree Ritual – Aldermarsh, Whidbey Island | Image by Corinne Diachuk
The deeper I move into this vision, the more I understand that it is not simply about creating a beautiful place. It is about asking what kind of culture we want to participate in creating.
I have spent much of my life questioning the assumptions of the dominant culture: the idea that productivity should determine our worth, that individual success is the measure of a meaningful life, that our bodies are commodities, that nature exists primarily as a resource, and that we must constantly strive toward some future version of ourselves in order to be enough. I am interested in what happens when we experiment with different assumptions.
What if belonging mattered as much as achievement? What if pleasure had a place alongside purpose? What if creativity was valued and considered essential rather than optional? What if caring for one another and caring for the Earth were understood as expressions of the same practice?
These are not abstract questions for me. They are questions I aim to embody.
I am still becoming. I have changed direction many times. I have let go of identities, places, relationships, beliefs, ambitions, and versions of myself that once felt essential. I have also discovered parts of myself that I could not have imagined earlier in my life. Some of that process has been exhilarating. Some of it has been painful. Much of it has involved learning to trust what I cannot yet see.
That is perhaps why the word *becoming* continues to feel so true.
I believe we never arrive at a final version of ourselves. Life keeps asking us to grow, adapt, release, discover, and begin again. The invitation isn’t about becoming perfect. It’s to become more intimate with the truth of who we are and more courageous about allowing that truth to change us.
If you have found your way here, I imagine there is some part of you that is curious about this too.
Ecstatic Breathwork – Touch & Play Brazil | Image by Ismael Dos Anjos
Core Erotic Selfie – Stockholm
Maybe you are exploring your relationship with your body. Maybe you are questioning an old story about who you are supposed to be. Perhaps you are seeking more pleasure, more creativity, more spirituality, more authentic relationships, or simply a deeper sense of belonging. Perhaps you are crossing a threshold that you cannot quite name yet.
Whatever brought you here, I am glad you found me.
This website is an invitation to get to know the person behind the work, but it is also an invitation into an ongoing conversation. You will find my art here, along with my explorations of embodiment, spirituality, sexuality, creativity, community, and the strange and beautiful process of becoming human.
Thanks for being here,
